“Enjoy your weekend, but more importantly enjoy your child.”Students in 3rd through 5th grade practiced their Conflict Managers Skills as we work hard to implement the program once again this year. Student interested in becoming a Conflict Manager for one recess a week will work with the counselor to hone these skills. Conflict Manager Programs are important to establish for three main reasons:
Playgrounds are safer when students help to monitor.
- Students learn how to resolve conflicts respectfully.
- Students learn how to report “Hurtful” behavior quickly and quietly.
Please feel free to practice the dialogue at home with your child.
Conflict Managers Process & Dialogue
(You may walk with a friend, only if you keep your eyes and ears peeled for problems.)
3rd Graders Mediate 3rd Graders and Younger Students
4th Graders Mediate 4th Graders and Younger Students
5th Graders Mediate 5th Graders and Younger Students
If the disputants are hitting or using inappropriate language, quickly and quietly report to the teacher on duty. Do not get involved. (No Matter What Grade – Report Quickly and Quietly)
Ask the disputants once and only once if they would like your help. When all disputants say yes, then you explain the ground rules. If one says, “NO” then say: “If you change your mind feel free to talk to me.” Then walk away and ask the teacher on duty to keep an eye on the situation.
Say: Hi, my name is ____________________ and you are ___________________. It seems like you two are having a disagreement, I am a trained mediator and I can help if you like? Disputant’s name_________________ would you like my help? He/she has to say yes. Other disputant’s name______________ would you like my help? He/she has to say yes.
Say: Each person gets to tell their side of the story, and there are to be no interruptions and no name calling or putdowns. Our focus is for you both to work together to come up with a solution that works.
Say: Who would like to start first???? If they cannot decide who goes first, then do Eneeny Meeny Minny Moe or Rock, Paper, Scissors, or Bubble Gum Bubble Gum in a Dish to select a disputant to start telling his/her side of their story. Listen and ask questions to help clarify the situation. Possible questions:
How did that make you feel?
What do you want as a result of us meeting and what are you willing to do?
If you could do something different to help this situation, what would it be?
Have you had this problem before, if so how did you solve it?
Have you seen other kids with this same problem, how did they solve it??
Say: What do you think is the best solution for both of you?
Say: Thank you for coming up with a solution that works for all of you. Please feel free to come back to mediation if there is a future problem. The information that you shared today will be kept confidential. The only time that I would break confidentiality is if danger is involved, then I would have to report the situation to the Teacher on Duty and Mrs. Le Blanc.
Here is an excellent websites\ to help you better understand this process.
Sara Le Blanc
Elementary School Counselor
“Enjoy your weekend, but more importantly enjoy your child.”